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06 April 2007, 22:33
Simply Happy 6 ways to be happy by Patric Chan
Happy Easter!
Simply Happy or 6 ways to be happy
Do you want to live longer?
Keeping your life simple is an important key to longevity. It's not me who said this. Research shows that happy people live better lives than unhappy people, enjoying better relationships and even longer lives.
Don't get me wrong-- I'm not here trying to teach you how to live longer. If you don't want to live longer, that's fine. As far as I'm concern, life is too precious to be "thrown" away or not to be happy.
I'm just going to tell you the 6 easy ways to achieve happiness..
1. Eliminate Useless Stress
Necessary stress is called eustress. You need it to boost good performance. It works more like a challenge to give your best to a certain task. You can have this stress and still live simply hard as it may sound to you.
What we don't like is useless distress. It is having more stress than you need to accomplish a task happily and I hate this. It is stress born out of stiff competition or jealousy.
Here's an easy way to differentiate:
Having to pay for bills incurred by things you really need causes eustress. Having to pay for bills incurred by materialistic desires, especially when the bills have mounted up, causes distress. Once desires are fed, they grow into devouring monsters.
2. Desire Less
Easier said that done, I would say. Extreme desire often leads to unwanted problems. In an over commercialized world, people usually cannot accurately identify their needs from their wants or desires. That leads to collateral damage of unhappiness.
There's a saying by Buddha that someone can achieve happiness by removing desire in his or her life. Of course, that's a simple statement but requires profound thinking.
The basic idea is to desire less materially. Do what you must do to fulfill a need. Work on it heartily, but do not impose on yourself a desired outcome. Make goals if you wish to ∔ to inspire (not pressure) yourself to more productivity. If you hit your goals, be thankful. If not, so what? Forgive yourself then try better next time. Do not punish yourself for not hitting the goals.
3. Laugh More Often ∓ What's So Difficult About It?
Laughter sometime is the best medicine. Laughing helps keep things simple. When a problem presents itself, you have two options: to worry, or to laugh some while dealing with it. Worrying often blows things out of proportion and laughing makes even big problems seem easy to solve. Laughter can do wonders to reduce your stress and you might live longer. (smile)
4. You Don't Have To Be A Perfectionist
Being a perfectionist sounds like it could earn you a good reputation, but actually it is just an ego booster. It turns you into a permanent and fierce competitor in a useless competition of proving to all that you are the best. It only makes distress an everyday meal for you.
Some would insist that being a perfectionist is a good attitude to have, to make sure that your work quality is always top of the line. I don't want to argue with these people. They're 'perfectionist' in a way or not.
Again, if you submit to "standards" made by some people, and if you pursue to fit into that "standard" just to earn their admiration, you are locked into the trap of self-importance; and the "standard" you follow is a false one. In the end, all you get is an ailing body battered from an overdose of distress.
Strive to be perfect by all means, but only in character, especially on how to become more loving, forgiving, patient, understanding, meek, and simple. Do not be a perfectionist -- trying to perfect your accomplishments to prove your worth, and punishing yourself doing it -- that is, if you want to live a long, happy, and healthy life. God gave you a life to live∦ live it.
5. Love Everything
When you focus on love as the rule of your life, everything becomes simple. It becomes very easy for you to let go, to forgive and forget. Nothing in this life is as important as a loving character.
People living simple lives often have enough quality time to meditate on life and realize that this philosophy is true: That there is nothing more important and inspiring than to love -- love God or a Higher Being, love life, and love people around you. The saying goes that love conquers all and never dies.
When I said living a simple life, I DO NOT mean a poor life. You could be a millionaire and have a simple life to live happily.
6. Stop, Look, and Listen
While everybody else is busy running around beating deadlines, simple people make time to stop and watch life unfold each day. You may find them sitting by their doorsteps quietly watching people pass by, or enjoying how the neighborhood goes about its daily routine. I'm not asking you to waste time - I'm asking you to participate in 'life'.
Happiness is a choice and these six tips will help you to achieve more. You are in control of your own happiness as only you can decide what to think and feel.
Practicing a few of these tips daily will help you take back control of your life.
"If you want to be happy, be," said Leo Tolstoy. It is as simple as that.
You "Chan" Do It!
-Patric Chan
P.S: Have you listened to "As A Man Thinketh" before? You should It teaches you about happiness and success. Go to http://www.freeasamanthinketh.com if that interest you.
Enjoy!
Sincerely,
Margarita
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