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14 September 2010, 16:07
Say Yes More! by Karl Moore
You are fantastic at saying "No."
You really are. You might not even realize it, but you're great at it.
We say "No" to hundreds of things in our lives, every single day.
We say "No!" to our anger. We say "No!" to our lustful urges. We say "No!" to the things we deem to be wrong. We say "No!" to change. We say "No!" to criticism against ourselves. In fact, in general, we say "No!" to the world around us.
But you really must get with the latest in self-development fashion.
You see, "Yes!" is the new "No!"
We each spend too much time fighting against the world and what happens within it. We resist what happens in our life. We don't accept what is. We say "No!"
Does that sound like you?
The problem is that saying "No!" too much holds us back. It means we spend our time suppressing our emotions and stopping ourselves from moving forward.
When we say "No!" we're swimming against the current. When we say "Yes!" we're swimming with the current.
Which do you think is easiest? Which produces less stress? Which is faster, and more enjoyable?
By saying yes to the world, we instantly become more open and more accepting of everything. Saying yes allows us to accept what's going on, and gives us greater power to change whatever we desire.
So, do you say "No!" too often in your life?
Do you deny your emotions? Do you perhaps try to push down jealousy when it appears? Do you suppress fear? Do you deny lust? Do you desperately attempt to cap your grief?
Try saying "Yes" to every emotion and situation that comes up for you. Accept it. Welcome it. Embrace it. Trust it. Be okay with it.
By saying "Yes" to everything that comes up in your life, you enter into a state of flow. You find that life becomes easier, and that you develop a more loving and accepting side.
Remember, saying "Yes" doesn't necessarily mean that you agree with something. If your local neighbourhood experiences a spate of violent attacks, saying "Yes" to it doesn't mean you approve of it. Rather, it means you accept the situation - rather than fight against the fact that it's happening.
And that gives you greater power to change it, if you wish to do so. Acknowledgement is the first step on the road to change.
Saying yes more is a ninja weapon in the world of self-development.
It frees you up - and enables you to turn every bad situation into a good situation.
Saying yes more removes your resistance, obliterates your stress, and turns you into a brighter, more lucid individual.
It doesn't just work with emotions either. Saying yes more is also perfect for social situations!
Do you realize just how many times you turn down social invitations? It's possible people don't even ask you out anymore, because they presume you'll say no. And then you complain about how few friends you have. Tsk!
So, when you next get asked, say "YES!" - instantly!
In fact, as an experiment, trying saying yes to everything (within reason!) over the space of a week. That's what Danny Wallace did in his humorous self-help book "Yes Man."
It changed his life. This simple technique has changed mine too.
By saying YES more, you're giving your life to fate - allowing yourself to be open to the randomness of the world. You're expressing.
By saying NO, you're denying, you're stunting the growth of your own potential. You're suppressing.
So, say "YES!" to the hilarity of life, the next time a bus drives by, splashing into a puddle and soaking your new dress. Embrace your grief, when your pet hamster passes away. Welcome your anger toward that oh-so-annoying situation. Accept all of your own crazy worrying habits.
Say "YES!" to everything.
Literally, say it. Say it out loud when things happen. Repeat it to yourself over and over if you wish. It's a great mantra.
So, say YES: Embrace. Welcome. Accept. Drop the resistance.
You know, they say life can only be lived going forward, and only understood looking backward. Maybe that's true for you. Trust that everything has a reason - and say "Yes!" to what happens to you, knowing that it'll make sense in the end.
Let's review.
The Australians call it a "Bias for yes." The Spanish say "Si a todo." Buddhists describe it as flowing with the current of life.
We call it saying yes more.
And by saying yes more, you'll become more accepting, more loving, and more in harmony with the world. It's one of the secret tools in your self-development armour - and ultimately gives you more power and control over a situation.
So, if you want to find your freedom, say yes more.
Enjoy!
Margarita Nomeikiene
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09 September 2010, 14:15
The most valuable card in your wallet by Harvey Mackay
The most valuable card in your wallet
By Harvey Mackay
When Ben Franklin founded the first public lending library in America in 1731, he probably had no idea what he would inspire. There is no better bargain than a library card, and what better time to sign up for one than September -- library card sign-up month.
Studies show that children who use the library tend to perform better in school. They are also more likely to continue learning and exploring throughout their lives.
If you don't use the library for business, now is a good time to start. We can obtain a high percentage of the information we need via search engines using our home or work computers. But there are a lot of hidden business jewels available at your local library, and many of them can be accessed online.
The average small business or job seeker is penalized by having limited research capability. Big companies with big budgets pay for expensive databases. With a mouse click, they can instantly access company data, sort through research reports, and locate current and archived newspaper and trade journal articles. Small companies and individuals who can't afford premium access are left out. Unless they have a local library card.
Most libraries pay for premium subscription databases that you can use for free. Want to use Dun and Bradstreet, Reference USA, and/or Hoovers to research companies, competitors, and build lead lists? There's a good chance your library subscribes to a company search database. Want to see if the company where you're making your next sales call or job interview has been featured in an article? How about if the person you're meeting with has been cited as an expert in an industry trade journal? The library most likely has the information.
"Your library is an incredible source of business content," says Sam Richter, award-winning author and founder of the Know More! business improvement program. "Even better, you can access most of these databases at no charge via your home or office computer, as long as you have a library card."
Find the best online business information sources including your library's website at Sam's free Know More! Center, www.samrichter.com. Once on your library's site, choose a database, enter your library card number, and you're accessing many of the same high-end information resources that would normally cost you tens of thousands of dollars.
Every time I speak to corporate America I say there is no such thing as a cold call at MackayMitchell Envelope Company. If you use the tools available to you through the Know More! Center and your public library, you can gather the information you need to make "warm calls" where you're prepared.
For example, when you have a business meeting or job interview and don't know much about the company, Sam advises that you use a newspaper or trade journal database to see if an article has been written about the firm. There, you'll find information that is not necessarily on the company's website including revenue and employee figures. Oftentimes executives are interviewed where they talk about the company's direction, future products and more. Also make sure to research the company's industry and learn industry trends. Reference this information in your meeting, share data, and discuss how you have helped companies facing similar challenges.
With the amount of information available online today, there is absolutely no excuse for not knowing something about the company and person you're meeting with before you meet or call. Remember that the person you're meeting with -- regardless of how nice -- is not rewarded for caring about you. What they do care about is knowing if you can help them achieve their goals. Do your homework and you'll establish your credibility ... You'll differentiate yourself. You'll be able to ask intelligent questions that solicit meaningful dialogue. And you'll be able to share relevant stories.
And as you know, a library card is still great for checking out books! Haven't read any good books lately? There's no time like the present to start. I love the convenience of my Kindle, but the feel of a real book in my hands is unmatched. You can even check out an audiobook for your commute.
Book club guidance, computer classes, periodicals, story time for the kids -- all through the doors of your library. And one of the most amazing features I like best: live technical help when I need it! Your library card is your ticket to the past and to the future.
Mackay's Moral: The library is a truly amazing resource -- check it out!
Enjoy!
Margarita Nomeikiene
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28 August 2010, 14:05
Traveling in Cyberspace: I have learned (author unknown)
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Traveling in Cyberspace: I have learned
Published on May 9, 2008 in Stories. By Paulo Coelho
This text, which I found on the Internet, is I think worth reproducing here:
I have learned (author unknown)
I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them;
I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back;
I’ve learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
I’ve learned that it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts;
I’ve learned that you can get by on charm, for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something;
I’ve learned that you shouldn’t compare yourself to the best others can do.
I’ve learned that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
I’ve learned that it’s taking me a long time to become the person that I want to be.
I’ve learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may b the last time you see them.
I’ve learned that you can keep going long after you can’t.
I’ve learned that we are responsible for all we do, no matter how we feel.
I’ve learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I’ve learned that no matter how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take it’s place.
I’ve learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
I’ve learned that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I’ve learned that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
I’ve learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re downhill are the ones to help you get back up.
I’ve learned that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.
I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean that they don’t love you with all they have.
I’ve learned that maturity had more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.
I’ve learned that your family won’t always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren’t related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren’t biological.
I’ve learned that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
I’ve learned that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to forgive yourself.
I’ve learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief.
I’ve learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
I’ve learned that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.
I’ve learned that we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I’ve learned that you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I’ve learned that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will get hurt in the process.
I’ve learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.
I’ve learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
I’ve learned that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
I’ve learned that the people you care about the most in life are taken from you too soon.
I’ve learned that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings and standing up for what you believe.
Enjoy!
Sincerely,
Margarita Nomeikiene
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