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24 May 2009, 07:11
Do You Have Adaptability? by Tony Alessandra
Do You Have Adaptability?
Being willing and able to adapt your behavior increases your ability to communicate and build relationships with other people. The concept of adaptability, as developed by Dr. Michael O’Connor, my co-author of The Platinum Rule (Warner Books, August 1996), is a two-part process. It combines flexibility with versatility. Flexibility is your willingness to adapt. It’s your attitude.
Versatility is your ability to adapt. It’s your aptitude. People with adaptability are both flexible and versatile. Of course, our level of adaptability can be stronger in some situations than others. For example, we tend to be more adaptable at work with people we know less, and less adaptable at home with people we know better. In addition, research shows that people view themselves as more flexible and versatile than they actually are. That’s because we all aspire to those behaviors, and we judge ourselves on how we intend to act as well as on how we do act. But unfortunately, our actions don’t always match our intentions. Another reason for the gap between our ideal versus our actual level of adaptability is that it’s not easy. That’s why it’s also important to know the 10 characteristics that undermine your ability to adapt—the negative traits that undermine your adaptability. Let’s look now at the 10 positive characteristics for adaptability. We’ll start with flexibility.
The first half of the high-adaptability formula—Flexibility
High flexibility is characterized by these five attributes: confidence, tolerance, empathy, positiveness and respect for others. The first attribute, confidence, means that you believe in yourself; you trust your own judgement and resourcefulness.
The second high flexibility attribute is tolerance. That means you’re open to accepting opinions and practices different from your own. We can easily think of people who are intolerant of others because of religious or political beliefs. Those intolerant folks may attract like-minded people, but they don’t gain the attention of a diverse audience.
Third, is empathy. The root of the word empathy is pathos, which means “feeling” in Greek. Empathy is a term for deep feeling. It means, “I feel what you feel. I can put myself in your shoes.” Another word with the same root, sympathy, means merely acknowledging someone else’s feelings. It results in kindness and pity, and it comes from the head. Empathy results in feeling the pain, or the joy, of the other person. It comes from the heart.
The fourth high-flexibility attribute is positiveness. The late Dr. Norman Vincent Peale’s book The Power of Positive Thinking has sold well for more than 40 years because it contains such a universal truth. A positive attitude leads to positive events in your life.
And the fifth high-flexibility characteristic is respect for others. This is the sincere desire to understand and consider other people’s choices, commitments and needs in relation to yours.
The other side of the adaptability coin: The negative traits that undermine your adaptability. If you recognize any of these in yourself, try to improve your adaptability by eliminating this negative tendency from your behavior.
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Just what you need to know about Tony Allessandra
Tony Allessandra is a speaker and author whose books include The Platinum Rule, Collaborative Selling and The Art of Managing People. Allessandra's numerous video and film projects include the award-winning film, The Power of Listening. Allessandra was inducted into the National Speaker's Association Hall of Fame in 1985 and is a member of the Speaker's Roundtable, a group of 20 of the world's most recognized professional speakers.
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20 May 2009, 17:21
FSF Settles Suit Against Cisco
The Free Software Foundation (FSF) and Cisco Systems, Inc. are pleased to announce that they have reached a joint agreement.
BOSTON, Massachusetts, USA -- Wednesday, May 20, 2009 -- The Free Software Foundation (FSF) and Cisco Systems, Inc. are pleased to announce that they have reached a joint agreement.
Under the agreement, the FSF has agreed to dismiss its lawsuit against Cisco.
Cisco has agreed to appoint a Free Software Director for Linksys, a subsidiary of Cisco, to supervise Linksys' compliance with the requirements of free software licenses such as the GPL (the GNU General Public License). The Free Software Director will report periodically to the FSF regarding Linksys' compliance efforts. Cisco has further agreed to take certain steps to notify previous recipients of Linksys products containing FSF programs of their rights under the GPL and other applicable licenses, to publish a licensing notice on the Linksys website, and to provide additional notices in a separate publication. In addition, Cisco will continue to make the complete and corresponding source code for versions of FSF programs used with current Linksys products freely available on its website. Cisco will also make a monetary contribution to the FSF.
The parties recognize Cisco's ongoing obligations under the GPL and other free software licenses. The FSF will continue to independently monitor Linksys' compliance with these licenses, and work with Linksys to resolve any new issues that may arise.
"We are glad that Cisco has affirmed its commitment to the free software community by implementing additional measures within its compliance program and dedicating appropriate resources to them, further reassuring the users' freedoms under the GPL," said Peter Brown, Executive Director of the FSF. "Our agreement results in making all of the relevant source code available in the fastest way possible."
About the FSF
The Free Software Foundation, founded in 1985, is dedicated to promoting computer users' right to use, study, copy, modify, and redistribute computer programs. The FSF promotes the development and use of free (as in freedom) software -- particularly the GNU operating system and its GNU/Linux variants -- and free documentation for free software. The FSF also helps to spread awareness of the ethical and political issues of freedom in the use of software, and its Web sites, located at fsf.org and gnu.org, are an important source of information about GNU/Linux. Donations to support the FSF's work can be made at http://donate.fsf.org. Its headquarters are in Boston, MA, USA.
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09 May 2009, 19:22
Happy Mothers Day!
Mothers day is a great opportunity for love, family and reflection.
Please take a few minutes to read this message and
reflect on your life.
Are you Actively Involved in Getting What You want,
If not you Don't Really Want It.
Write that in big letters somewhere you can read
it often. A lot of negative thinking, depression,
frustration, and illness stems from people's thinking
they want something they don't really want.
How do you really know what you want? What ever
you are actively involved in getting, that's
what you really want. Everything else is just
what you think you want. if you think you want
something and you're not actively involved in
getting it, you're probably just kidding yourself.
It's true that, in every moment, you can't be
actively involved in doing something about everything
you want. How, then, can you tell what you're actively
involved in?
We are more than our minds, more than our thinking
process. We are also more than our feelings and more
than our body. Most people have spent so much time
in either thinking or feeling, they think that a
thought or feel that a feeling is them. To think
you want something or to feel you want something
doesn't necessarily mean that's what you want.
What you want--what you really want---
is what you are making real through action.
If you think you want something but you're not
doing much to get it, you have three choices:
1. You can go on the way you've been: Kidding
yourself and pretending you really want this thing
that you don't really want--or aren't willing to do
the necessary work to get. This causes frustration
("Why can't I have what I want?), hurt ("I never get
what I want"), resentment ("other people get what
they want; why not me?"), and unworthiness ("I guess
I don't really deserve it").
2. Give up the goal. Realize it's nice idea,
and if it were in the next room, you'd probably
go to the next room and partake of it. It is,
however, not something you really want more
than other things you are actively seeking.
3. Do whatever is necessary to reach
the goal. Eliminate from your schedule activities
that support goals with lower priorities than the
one in question. As you move toward your goal,
certain mental, emotional, and physical objections
will be raised. No matter what complaints your
mind, emotions, and body fling at you, if you
know you need to do it, do it anyway. Gently,
lovingly--but firmly--teach the objecting parts
of you that you have a new goal, a new
priority, and that your actions will now be
in alignment with achieving that goal.
Those are your choices. Most people choose
by default--they "Choose" #1 by not choosing,
and things go on as they have in the past.
I suggest you choose from options 2 or 3.
Either will put you more actively in charge
of your thoughts, feelings, and actions
However, I hope you elect to pursue #3.
Please make this Mothers Day a very special day by
Calling or visiting your mom, honor your spouse/partner,
family and friends and make a decision to do something
for your self.
If you are not where you want to be this mothers day
please allow me to help you turn that around.
Before you decide yes or no take a look at what other people just like you are saying about my work.
"Dr. White, this is one of the most profound life lessons I have ever heard -- the energy and TRUTH of the principles you are discussing and revealing here are unlocking the fetters of fear that have for so long shackled me to false paradigms. THANK YOU, THANK YOU! Kerry-Mesa, AZ"
"I love you and your passion Dr White. This is the hardest work I've ever done on myself and I am grateful for the depth of it. Rick-Citrus Springs."
http://www.whatsmypurpose.com
With Appreciation,
Jim White PhD
Author and Creator,
What's My Purpose?
What's My Purpose Life Mastery Course
CEO and Founder,
JL White International, Inc.
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Sincerely, Margarita Nomeikiene
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