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28 July 2011, 06:40
Life Would Be Easy...
Life Would Be Easy... If It Weren’t for COMMUNICATION Differences by Connie Podesta
Sometimes it seems that folks just don’t get it. No matter what you say or how you say it, they simply don’t have a clue—and don’t seem too worried about getting one either! It’s not their nature to understand; that’s just how they “are.” Maybe so, but more often than not, the problem is a result of a communication breakdown.
In this digitally interconnected world, you’d think we could “fix” such basic differences. Unfortunately, it’s not as easy as plugging another device into the system. Maybe they’re the problem. Maybe you are. We all know difficult people—and, in fact, we can all be the difficult person.
A little background on communication styles can help us understand the issues and learn how to alter our approach to eventually make life a little easier for both parties.
The Basics
Every time we speak, we choose and use one of four basic communication styles: assertive, aggressive, passive and passive-aggressive.
Assertive Communication
The most effective and healthiest form of communication is the assertive style. It’s how we naturally express ourselves when our self-esteem is intact, giving us the confidence to communicate without games and manipulation.
When we are being assertive, we work hard to create mutually satisfying solutions. We communicate our needs clearly and forthrightly. We care about the relationship and strive for a win/win situation. We know our limits and refuse to be pushed beyond them just because someone else wants or needs something from us. Surprisingly, assertive is the style most people use least.
Aggressive Communication
Aggressive communication always involves manipulation. We may attempt to make people do what we want by inducing guilt (hurt) or by using intimidation and control tactics (anger). Covert or overt, we simply want our needs met—and right now! Although there are a few arenas where aggressive behavior is called for (e.g., sports or war), it will never work in a relationship. Ironically, the more aggressive sports rely heavily on team members and rational coaching strategies.
Passive Communication
Passive communication is based on compliance and hopes to avoid confrontation at all costs. In this mode we don’t talk much, question even less, and actually do very little. We just don’t want to rock the boat. Passives have learned that it is safer not to react and better to disappear than to stand up and be noticed.
Passive-Aggressive Communication
A combination of styles, passive-aggressive avoids direct confrontation (passive), but attempts to get even through manipulation (aggressive). If you’ve ever thought about making that certain someone who needs to be “taught a thing or two” suffer (even just a teeny bit), you’ve stepped pretty close to (if not on into) the devious and sneaky world of the passive-aggressive.
So now what?
Clearly, for many reasons, the only healthy communication style is assertive communication. Surely you can identify many people in your own life who favor each of the four styles. Most of us use a combination of these four styles, depending on the person or situation. The styles we choose generally depend on what our past experiences have taught us will work best to get our needs met in each specific situation. If you take a really good look at yourself, you’ve probably used each throughout your lifetime.
Understanding the four basic types of communication will help you learn how to react most effectively when confronted with a difficult person. It will also help you recognize when you are using manipulative behavior to get your own needs met. Remember, you always have a choice as to which communication style you use. If you’re serious about taking control of your life, practice being more assertive. It will help you diffuse anger, reduce guilt and build relationships, both personally and professionally.
Take Action!
Begin to pay attention to which communication styles you use throughout the day. How often do you use a communication style other than assertive?
Watch and identify the communication styles some of the difficult people in your life use. Can you begin to notice how others use manipulative techniques to get their way?
Author of Life Would Be Easy If It Weren’t for Other People, Connie Podesta mixes positive and inspiring messages with comedic zest as a well-known public speaker.
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Enjoy!.
Margarita Nomeikiene from Your Achievement Newsletter.
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23 July 2011, 12:47
Holographic Creation
Hi Reader,
Today I have a quick, exciting, and powerful exercise to share from you, an exercise straight from Christhoper Westra's Manifesting and Thought Control Audio. This exercise is call the Powerful Indivisible Sphere of the Present, and I have been given exclusive permission to share it with you by Christopher.
Christopher teaches a different route to the law of attraction to most, and one which works very well for him - he calls it Holographic Creation.
Christopher came across the idea for this exercise by reading a book called Time and Free Will, back when he was in college.
This mind-blowing book explains how viewing time as linear makes our consciousness fragmented into past, present, and future.
When we are fragmented in this way, we actually lose some of our free will because we can't see things clearly.
By learning to live as a whole person in the present moment, we become free and powerful, as we are meant to be.
Here are some benefits from the exercise, and then we will present the exercise below.
3 Main Benefits You'll Get from the Powerful Indivisible Sphere of the Present Exercise
See Life More Clearly: You'll better remember the lessons you have learned from what you call your past. You'll realize there is no past, and the lessons are here with you now.
Reduce Your Fears. You can stop imagining future negative scenarios. These pictures of the future are the basis of fear. They are not real.
Experience More Free Will and Power. When we fragment our consciousness into past, present, and future, we play "mind games" in order to "not see" the implications and consequences of our actions.
When we act from an unclear perspective, we often make dumb decisions that thwart us from achieving what we really want.
Now, here are the steps to the actual Powerful Indivisible Sphere of the Present Exercise.
Read through all the steps and then close your eyes and do it as best as you can. If you need to open your eyes to peek at the instructions, that is OK.
Step 1. Close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths. Say to yourself "My consciousness is one, and cannot be divided."
Step 2. Visualize the past and present and future as a timeline. This is easy because it's what we usually do! We even create timelines of history. This is what is known as "Linear" time, because it is modeled
after a "Line".
Step 3. Now, time really isn't a line. In fact, time as we think about it doesn't exist at all. This is what Henri Bergson taught.
Tell yourself, "There is no past, present, and future - all laid out in a line." It is our consciousness that we either experience holistically or in a holographic manner, or in a linear manner.
Step 4. Starting with the "past" side of the line, picture the line being rolled up into a ball towards the present moment. All the memories.. all the learning... all the connections... still stay right with you now. They are present.If parts of the "line" represent stories that you have made up and no longer want - stories of resentment, or pain, or abandonment, or loneliness, then let these parts of the line just be "cut off" and float away. Only roll up those parts of the "past" that you want to keep. As you roll the line, the point of the present grows bigger and brighter as it forms into a sphere. This sphere is the Powerful Indivisible Sphere of the Present!
Step 5. Now take the "line" of the future, as you usually think of it, and start to "roll up" that line into the present moment also. Collect all the plans, all the goals and dreams, and all the meanings and hopes and desires and roll them right into the present. You aren't affecting time - time doesn't exist. What you are changing is your consciousness of time. As the so-called future is also rolled up into the present, the sphere of the present becomes brighter and brighter.
Step 6. Now see this sphere of the present pulsating and glowing with power and life. This Powerful Indivisible Sphere of the Present is your new symbol for your consciousness.
OK - that's the end of the exercise. You can open your eyes now..
If you enjoyed this exercise then it is only one tiny part of Christopher's Manfiesting and Thought Control Method, and learning to live in Holographic Consciousness will greatly improve your ability to Holographically Create or Manifest what you desirein your life. - you can find out more here:
www.subliminalmp3s.com/go/ChristopherWestra.
Enjoy!.
Sincerely.
Margarita Nomeikiene fromvMarvin King - SubliminalMP3s.com
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14 June 2011, 20:32
you'll be able to find some great stuff to help you here.
Hi Reader,
This might come out wrong but I really don't admire
a lot of people in this world. I know it sounds bad
but achievements don't really mean that much to me,
as least not as much as what it takes an individual
to overcome the things they must overcome to actually
achieve something significant in their life.
The kids I went to high school with (when I went)
who had great families, supportive parents, plenty
of money, and all kinds of encouragement didn't
impress me when they graduated.
The people who have professional trainers, the best
equipment in the world, and a personal nutritionist
making every meal for them and feeding them at just
the right times who lose weight, don't really
impress me too much.
But the people who rise up against all odds,
fighting tooth and nail every step of the way,
to reach the very same achievements, impress the
hell out of me!
To dig into the deepest depths of your heart and
soul and find that strength most people don't even
know exists and persevere through all of the self
doubt, uncertainty, lack of support and resources,
and squash your fears while everything is telling
you YOU CAN'T DO IT just to achieve the same goal
that many people have handed to them on a silver
platter, those people command my respect and admiration.
And while we've had our difference and don't agree
on everything, Bob created his success BEFORE he
taught others about how to do it and I respect and
admire that about him.
He's got lots of years of wisdom and you can
certainly find a nugget or 2 every time you listen
to him so go check this video out, take what
serves you from it and leave the rest behind.
But most of all, look for something that will help
you tap into that strength you have in the deepest
parts of your heart and soul because to achieve
what you want, it takes THAT kind of intensity.
http://www.6minutestosuccess.com/launch/speedopt
Enjoy!
Margarita Nomeikiene from 2011 PowerLifeSuccessSystems.com
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